23 Children, Teens and Suicide Loss the child will likely have many complicated thoughts and feelings. Losing the dream of the relationship one day getting better can be heartbreaking. They may also have questions for you about your relationship with the person who died. Be honest and acknowledge difficulties in the relationship if they existed. You do not need to provide details about your relationship, but especially if the child witnessed struggles in the relationship, it is important to recognize them and provide some context (e.g., “Your dad and I sometimes had a hard time getting along, particularly when he was very depressed or angry”). Extending the child a no-pressure invitation to talk about their relationship with the person who died, or sharing your own experience to spark a conversation, can help relieve some of the child’s stress. Sibling Death If it was your child’s brother or sister who died, they may feel guilt, anxiety, fear, shame, and embarrassment. They may feel guilty about being the one who is still alive, or for what they said and did (or didn’t say or do) to their sibling. Some children regret not being closer with or nicer to their sibling. They may feel it was their responsibility to protect their sibling and that they failed to do that. Be sure to address these perceived responsibilities, for instance by providing information about mental health issues. What children regret is often tied to their developmental level. A very young child might feel guilty for not sharing their toys, while an older child or teen might regret not asking their sibling more questions about who they were and what they liked. They may also regret arguments they had with their sibling. Remember that conflict and blame may also arise between remaining siblings. Be aware of changing behavior and aggression.