b'What Do I Do Now?Its important to remember that you can survive the pain. There may be times when you dont think its possible, but it is.Here is some guidance from fellow suicide loss survivors:Some survivors struggle with what to tell other people; although you should make whatever decision feels right to you, most survivors have found it best to simply acknowledge that their loved one died by suicideYou may find that it helps to reach out to family and friends; because some people may not know what to say, you may need to take the initiative to talk about the suicide, share your feelings, and ask for their helpEven though it may seem difficult, maintaining contact with other people is especially important during the stress-filled months after a loved ones suicideKeep in mind that each person grieves in his or her own way; for example, some people visit the cemetery weekly; others find it too painful to go at allEach person also grieves at his or her own pace; there is no set rhythm or timeline for healingAnniversaries, birthdays and holidays may be especially difficult, so you might want to think about whether to continue old traditions or create some new onesYou may experience unexpected waves of sadness; these are a normal part of the grieving process8 Surviving a Suicide Loss'