b'Find a good listener with whom you can share, call someone if you need to talkDont be afraid to cry; tears are healingGive yourself time to healRemember, the choice was not yours; no one is the sole influence in anothers lifeExpect setbacks; if emotions return like a tidal wave, you may only be experiencing a remnant of grief, an unfinished pieceTry to put off major decisionsGive yourself permission to get professional helpBe aware of the pain of your family and friendsBe patient with yourself and with others who may not understandSet your own limits and learn to say noSteer clear of people who want to tell you what or how to feelKnow that there are support groups that can be helpful; if you cant find one, ask a professional to help start one Call on your personal faith to help you throughIt is common to experience physical reactions to your grief, such as headaches, loss of appetite, or inability to sleepThe willingness to laugh with others, and at yourself, is healing10 Surviving a Suicide Loss'