b'Some survivors find comfort in community, religious, or spiritual activities, including talking to a trusted member of the clergyMany survivors use the arts to help them heal, by keeping a journal or writing poetry or musicTry to take care of your own well-being; consider visiting your doctor for a check-upBe kind to yourself. When you feel ready, begin to go on with your life; eventually starting to enjoy life again is not a betrayal of your loved one, but rather a sign that youve begun to healHere are some additional suggestions:Know you can survive; you may not think so, but you canStruggle with why it happened until you no longer need to know why, or until you are satisfied with partial answersKnow you may feel overwhelmed by the intensity of your feelings, but that all your feelings are normalAnger, guilt, confusion, forgetfulness are common responses; you are not crazyyou are in mourningBe aware you may feel appropriate anger at the person, at the world, at God, at yourself; its okay to express itYou may feel guilty for what you think you did or did not do; guilt can turn into regret through forgivenessHaving suicidal thoughts is common; it does not mean that you will act on those thoughtsRemember to take things one moment or day at a timeResource and Healing Guide 9'